Does it matter what it is that you survive physically as long as mentally you are bound by it?
We lay all emphasis on the ability to physically overcome a challenge. The word ‘survivor’ is the operational word of reference.
A survivor of floods
A survivor of cancer
A survivor of rape
A survivor of a gun shot wound
A survivor of election violence
A survivor of a dictatorial regime
A survivor of endometriosis
A survivor of a cult
A survivor of a road traffic accident
A survivor of malaria
A survivor of HIV
A survivor of a child birth gone South
A survivor of domestic violence
A survivor of betting
A survivor of drug and alcohol addiction
A survivor of robbery
A survivor of kidnapping
A survivor of bullying
A survivor of a beating
………………………………….you are welcome to ADD ON
Without diminishing the value of the physical aspect which sees us alive the day after, might a consideration of the common denominator of all the above exist?
Any person who has been through one or more of the above has experienced these two things as a result. These two experiences are without exception:
1. Fear for one’s life (I am going to die)
2. Helplessness over situation (There is nothing I can do about this).
This happens during the event (as it plays out)
This happens after the event (as a memory)
Trauma is the common denominator.
Therefore as we physically overcome the events which trigger these common denominator, we must not leave the emotional aspect neglected.
” How has surviving ………. affected how you feel about yourself and view the world?”
Then we can continue with a non-judgmental, empathetic and genuine conversation.
All wholly so.